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Friendships aren’t portable. 

There’s a new social network out. It doesn’t offer anything out of the box that I’m not getting already.

If I move there, I have to bring my friends with me. And they’re not going to move. They’re happy with using, or not using a social network already. 

I have people I already follow online. They’re on Twitter. Or they’re on Facebook. Or they hang out in Slack channels. 

But they’re not going to join something new without the most compelling feature. Friends.

App.net was first. It promised an ad-free experience.

Ello showed up with its black & white palette. 

Peach is the new kid on the block. It has magic words and this week’s attention. 

These places are the malls of today. If my friends are there, I’ll hang out with them. But if I go and there’s nobody I know, I’m not going to stick around.

The Social

The Futility of Comparing Yourself to Other is you’re comparing your reality to an ideal, a fantasy.

Social Media and the endless Sharing Culture built around it puts us in competition with our peers, friends, family and strangers constantly.

I don’t want to compare. I don’t want to share. I don’t want to compete. Social features are turn offs to me. I don’t want to post anything to anywhere. If I want to make a post about it, I will take it upon myself to do that, and perhaps link to a public page or screenshot.

But I don’t want to tell everyone about everything I do all the time.

I use Goodreads not to share what I read but simply to track books. I use the recommendations sometimes but I ignore the rest of the site. I use it mostly from my iPhone and I update my progress through the book(s) I am reading.

I have friends there. But I don’t follow them. I don’t care what they’re reading. That’s not why I use the site. If I could turn off the Social I would.

I love Pinboard. It bills itself Social Bookmarking for Introverts and is true to its word. I can follow other people so I can see their public bookmarks. I don’t. That’s all the Social there is to it.

The best thing about Pinboard is it allows me to send information to it.

  • Articles I’ve saved for later.
  • Favorited posts on Tumblr, Twitter, Google Reader.
  • Anything I’ve forwarded to it from email.

It’s my central repository for all online knowledge. If I’ve come across it, it’s in Pinboard and that’s where I search for it. I don’t share it. I don’t tell everyone about it. I don’t share it with my friends. I keep it for me.

I don’t have a constant need to share. I don’t need to tell my friends what I’m doing at all times of the day and night. More often, the sites I use and communities I spend time in may be tracking data for me and me alone and if others see it, that’s ok too.

I’m not in it for the social. I am in it for the benefit it brings to my life.

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