We are moving backwards
I have heard too much and I can’t remain silent any longer. I am not a political person. I do not protest. I do not demonstrate. I am not occupying anything but a chair at my work place and a bed in my apartment. When a friend [shared her thoughts](http://www.michelleandreesawrite.com/2012/03/its-not-a-revolution-without-a-manifesto/) this morning, I decided it was time for this good man to stop doing nothing.
>All that is necessary for the triumph of evil is that good men do nothing.
# Women’s Rights
We made so many positive strides in this country towards equality. Women have struggled for equality, the right to vote, and the right to make equal wages. Now there is a [War on Women](http://pol.moveon.org/waronwomen/) in this country.
There have been repeated [attacks on Planned Parenthood](https://www.plannedparenthood.org/ppgnw/PP-Under-Attack-Again-32835.htm). Rush Limbaugh’s [slut](http://www.thedailybeast.com/articles/2012/03/07/rush-limbaugh-s-sandra-fluke-slut-remark-and-more-crazy-comments.html) comment fanned the flames.
This [comic](http://www.theatlanticwire.com/politics/2012/03/women-means-something-different-republicans/49918/) puts it very succinctly. Women want to have the same rights as men. They are not second class citizens which exist solely to serve the men of the world.
# African-American Rights
African-Americans have been on the same road towards equality. Their long road started many years ago.
[Rosa Parks](http://www.achievement.org/autodoc/page/par0bio-1) began was a lightening rod for a bus boycott that changed minds and changes lives. [Martin Luther King Jr.](http://www.nobelprize.org/nobel_prizes/peace/laureates/1964/king-bio.html) gave a [speech](http://abcnews.go.com/Politics/martin-luther-kings-speech-dream-full-text/story?id=14358231#.T3XqQOxSShA) that forever changed the world.
For all the good done and legislation from the 1960s, there is still a very long road ahead. When [Rodney King](http://www.biography.com/people/rodney-king-9542141) was attacked and beaten in 1991, to the [Cincinnati Riots in 2001](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/2001_Cincinnati_Riots) are just instances in a long [history or racial violence](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mass_racial_violence_in_the_United_States) in the United States.
Events like the recent shooting of [Trayvon Martin](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Shooting_of_Trayvon_Martin) proves there is still a very long way to go on their road to freedom.
# Gay Rights
This brings us to homosexuality. I don’t understand why this is such a problem. We have not come very far at all.
It took people like [Matthew Shepherd](http://www.matthewshepard.org/our-story), and Dan Savage’s [It Gets Better](http://www.itgetsbetter.org/) project to bring attention to the issue of inequality and start the wheels in motion for support and legislation to make things right.
[Same-sex marriage](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Same-sex_marriage) is an ongoing struggle with states slowly coming around in support of something that never should have been unsupported.
The military repealed [Don't Ask, Don't Tell](http://www.defense.gov/home/features/2010/0610_dadt/) earlier this year. But legislation doesn’t [change people.](http://www.cnn.com/2011/09/20/opinion/watts-dadt-equality/index.html) President Obama has declared a [Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender Pride Month](http://m.whitehouse.gov/the-press-office/2011/05/31/presidential-proclamation-lesbian-gay-bisexual-and-transgender-pride-mon) in addition to ending Don’t Ask Don’t Tell but has stopped short of [fully supporting gay marriage](http://www.theatlantic.com/politics/print/2012/03/why-obama-isnt-backing-gay-marriage/255002/).
Ever since the beginning of the struggle for same-sex marriage to be legalized, marriage between a man and a woman been said to be under attack. I don’t even understand how that makes sense. How does people of the same gender being married have anything to do with the marriage of other men to women? It goes so far as the newly formed [National Organization for Marriage](http://www.nationformarriage.org/) is trying to [drive a wedge between blacks and gays](http://www.seattlepi.com/local/connelly/article/Same-sex-marriage-foes-Drive-a-wedge-between-3439288.php). This is the same group behind the [Dump Starbucks](http://www.dumpstarbucks.com/) campaign because, according to the site,
>On January 24th, 2012, Starbucks issued a memorandum declaring that same-sex marriage ‘is core to who we are and what we value as a company.
Will they go after Ben & Jerry’s next for their relaunch HUBBY HUBBY as [Apple-y Ever After](http://www.benjerry.co.uk/our-values/appleyeverafter) in support of marriage equality.
It is not all bad news. Recently, [more than half of Americans support marriage for everyone](http://abcnews.go.com/Politics/support-gay-marriage-reaches-milestone-half-americans-support/story?id=13159608#.T3X1a-xSShA). There is still a long road ahead for equality for everyone.
# Rights are not a finite resource.
There is not a finite amount of human rights to go around. Granting equality to everyone is not going to diminish the rights of anyone else.
White men are not going to be any less free if Black men have rights. Men won’t be any less free is women have rights. Straight people won’t be any less free is gay people have rights.
There is plenty to go around. We are not going to run out if we allow everyone the same rights under the law and in our country.
Those who oppose equal rights for everyone tries to frame the conversation to their advantage. You know what the difference between same-sex marriage and different-sex marriage is? Absolutely nothing?
You know what the difference between gay marriage and… what, ungay marriage? Is that why nearly [50% of ungay marriages fail](http://www.divorcerate.org/)?
Marriage is just marriage. There is no difference.
What do straight people lose in their marriage by allowing gay people to marry? **Absolutely nothing.**
If you’re so afraid for your own marriage that other people getting the ability to marry, then your marriage is in trouble and that is no one’s fault but your own.
The only people who should be concerned about a marriage are the two people in the marriage. Marriage is between two people. marriage is also a lot of hard work, communication and acceptance. There are also legal benefits that come with marriage being denied to hard working citizens.
I don’t understand what is so wrong with preventing other people from being married? Can’t they have the same chance to ruin half of their marriages as well? Can’t they be with loved ones in hospitals or dictate what happens in the wake of their spouse’s death? What is so wrong with extending these rights to everyone?
# Biology & Equality
Gender is not a binary, yes/no system.
[Biology doesn't support gay marriage bans.](http://www.beatricebiologist.com/2012/02/biology-doesnt-support-gay-marriage.html) Humans are not the [only animals that exhibit homosexuality](http://news.nationalgeographic.com/news/2004/07/0722_040722_gayanimal.html). The opposition is coming mainly from [religion](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Religion_and_homosexuality) and the religious abandoning the Christian tenet of [love thy brother](http://bible.cc/mark/12-31.htm) and [do unto others as you would have them do unto you](http://www.openbible.info/topics/do_unto_others).
When did it become in fashion to hate people who are different from us, just because they are different? It seems many of the people who lead the homophobic charge lead a [very different life](http://gayhomophobe.com/).
# Equality for everyone
All people should have the same rights. The rights won’t run out if we pass them around. The rights won’t diminish or dilute when they’re extended to everyone.
In the end, we all just want what’s best for ourselves in our life. Why should the iconic [kissing sailor](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/File:Legendary_kiss_V%E2%80%93J_day_in_Times_Square_Alfred_Eisenstaedt.jpg) from V-J Day in 1945 be any different from [this kiss](http://hamptonroads.com/2011/12/lesbian-couple-shares-first-kiss-navy-homecoming) in 2011? Sailor and soldiers away at sea excited to embrace and kiss their loved one.
Equality does not start with national speeches or legislation. Equality starts with small, simple acts.
[Patrick Rhone](http://patrickrhone.com/2011/12/22/what-equality-means/) says it best,
>It is about being able to have a seat on a bus.
>It is about being able eat a sandwich at a counter.
>It is about being able to enter a raffle so you can be the first one to kiss your girl…