{"id":4936,"date":"2017-11-28T13:17:25","date_gmt":"2017-11-28T18:17:25","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/peroty.com\/blog\/?p=4936"},"modified":"2017-11-28T13:17:25","modified_gmt":"2017-11-28T18:17:25","slug":"defriended","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/peroty.com\/blog\/thought-about\/defriended\/","title":{"rendered":"Defriended"},"content":{"rendered":"

I have been off Facebook for a few months now. I have thought about it for a long time. I am friends<\/em> with a lot of people on the site. There are a few people who I 1) care enough about to follow their lives and 2) can only connect with them through Facebook.<\/p>\n

Some people have blogs. Others I can keep up with on Twitter or Instagram. For the rest, I do miss keeping up with them and their hijinks with their kids.<\/p>\n

And I haven’t found a good solution for them.<\/p>\n

I want to reopen my Facebook account so connect with those few people. If I do, I am going to go through my list and unfriend<\/em> most of the people there. (Unfriend is such a harsh word. And they use it purposely.) We are not Facebook Friends™.<\/em><\/p>\n

My biggest problem with Facebook is the endless striving for more! More people, more connections, MORE FRIENDS!<\/strong><\/p>\n

When I deactivated my account, its first solution was to suggest that I connect with more people. As if that was the problem… Not enough friends.<\/p>\n

If I reactivate my account, I am going to pair the list down to those few people. I know Facebook will continue to show me friends of friends and people they think I might like. And people who commented on a post they made one time.<\/p>\n

I don’t care about their family members.
\nI don’t care about their friends.
\nI don’t care about their co-workers.
\nI don’t care about…<\/p>\n

I care about the people I care about enough to friend. The End.<\/p>\n

And that’s the problem with Facebook. There’s no money in it for them for me to keep my social network small. And that’s where we disagree.<\/p>\n

Facebook is not important enough for me to fight that fight. It’s not worth my time to keep fighting Facebook’s interests.<\/p>\n

Most importantly, I haven’t missed it. I haven’t opened the browser or downloaded the Android app since I deleted it back in October. It’s not a part of life I find missing.<\/p>\n

Do I want to reopen that door?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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